In God’s Hands

InGodsHandsMy story starts in 2006 when Mark, my husband of 16 years says “Why don’t we adopt?”  Mind you, we had two boys, (13 and 15 years old) already and we were well on our way to enjoying the teenager years with them—no more potty training or sleepless nights.  I was thrilled with the idea of adoption but when I asked him why he wanted to do this, he simply said, “I want God to tell me one day that I made a difference in someone’s life.”

We decided to adopt through the state, knowing these children needed the most love.  We were so excited when our case worker said there were two sisters (ages 4 and 5) that needed a home.  They had been bounced around nine different foster homes and they desperately needed a forever family.  We had to sit the boys down and make sure they were okay with two sisters, instead of the original plan of one sister.  They both agreed and we said yes.

The moment Mark and I stepped through the foster home threshold, we knew those babies were ours.  They were so full of life, joy and hope even though they had been through so much in their short lives.  We were able to finalize the adoption six months and one day later (you could not do it any earlier).  We submerged them in total love, discipline and structure.  They grew, laughed and developed their personalities.  It was a tiring, thrilling, exhausting, joyful, stressful and growing year of bonding for our family.  The boys were amazing!  They helped clean, discipline, play and just show the girls what it  meant to be part of a “family”.

The most amazing change we saw was the girls’ faith life.  They came to us not knowing about God but their lives were such an example of how God was guiding them and caring for them under less than optimal conditions.  My oldest daughter would frequently ask where she and her sister were in the family photos before they came to us and our standard answer was and still is “IN GOD’S HANDS”.

I firmly believe the girls were held there for us because the next part of the story is something that I never thought would happen.  In May of 2008, a little over a year after the adoption my husband became ill and died within a two-week period.  I was panicked now with having the task of raising four children by myself.  I clung to my faith and have not ever felt alone.  I know deep in my heart that God inspired Mark that day so that I could continue without him.  Some days are still tough but I know that our family will always be “IN GOD’ HANDS”.


  1. Thankyou so much for sharing ur heart. I just lost my husband of34yrs at the age of 54 suddenly on Jan.1 2014. God has a plan for here forth. Praise him for that! I do miss grandparenting without him. But taking 1 day at a time n bein content where I am is a Blessing! Thanku Tamera

  2. 6 months ago
    Donna says

    Love and strength for the journey from one foster parent to another…..

  3. Thank you for sharing your faith, your strength and your obedience. You and your hubby have been an inspiration to many. SO many times we have been given a task, we take it on, no questions asked.
    You are truly being blessed each and everyday. Hang in there, His light is shining so bright. He is pleased with you.

  4. Great article, good for you!!

  5. 6 months ago
    Obehi Iyoha says

    Thank so much ,fortunately in Gods hands is my na name,OBEHI. He have never let me down for a second.TRUST Him, He will take and ur family through every storm of live .l love.

  6. 6 months ago
    kelly says

    WOW..did not expect the story to end just like that….how are you now?? I have 3 girls myself and I thank God every day that my hubby is with me to parent these VERY independent wonderful LADIES….I applaud you in your strength and faith.

  7. 6 months ago
    Shanda says

    Thank you for posting this…I like the previous post by Nat, would like to know “more” myself, what’s happened since 2008? This story has TRULY been a blessing to me. I am a widow currently of 3yrs and my late husband and I didn’t have any kids together. The reason I’m asking for an update in this recent post, I’m just curious as to how she’s doing since 2008?

    Thank you again for posting this, i’m definitely going to share this with other widow and widowers in my circle-It’s ALL in GOD’S hands!

  8. This took my breath away. I cannot imagine what an incredible journey you have been on with those four kiddos! Thank you for sharing such a tender intimate story!

  9. 6 months ago
    teresa mckay-horsey says

    having just lost my oldest granddaughter you gave me assurance that I know I receive from GOD thank you !!!!!!

  10. 6 months ago
    nancy schneider says

    I am a Christian older lady but I love, to share your stories they so inspire individuals, and perhaps I will be using some of your other offers; so please send a daily e-mail. thank-you nancy

  11. 6 months ago
    Sara says

    Thank you for sharing your story so beautifully.

  12. 6 months ago
    Phylamaye says

    Your story just wow me. May God bless you.

  13. 6 months ago
    nat says

    Thank you for posting this. I’d like to know ‘more’, what’s happened since 2008?
    Or am I just not seeing ‘the rest’ ?