Go Home and Celebrate

GoHomeandCelebrateRejoice in the Lord always.  I will say it again; rejoice – Philippians 4:4

This month my husband and I are celebrating 20 years of marriage and 22 years of being together.  As wonderful as things are now in our marriage . . . around the 7 year mark, we stumbled onto a rough patch of road.   We found ourselves sitting in front of our pastor with a plea, “help us”.  We shared with him what we’ve been going through and what seemed confusing to navigate.  After he asked a few questions, and we told our story, my pastor simply said, “You need to go home and celebrate your marriage”.   I remember leaving the church thinking, “did he hear a word we just said?!?!”  Being somewhat confounded, we followed his advice.

We had a few nice dinners, a weekend trip, and we began to remember the loving, sensitive, graceful person that we married 7 years prior. We were blessed with an amazing opportunity to catch a second wind in our marriage before having our children.  This is a joy beyond understanding, feeling both like newlyweds while having the comfort of knowing each other so well.

“You need to go home and celebrate” has now become much of my philosophy in life.   When things seem impossible . . .  Rejoice. Sing. Celebrate. While there is often other hard work to do and counsel to seek, the core of happiness in our relationships is a grateful and graceful heart that knows the blessing we have in Him and each other.   

While working at an alternative school, Dr. Beth Ackerman completed her Master’s degree in special education at Lynchburg College and a doctorate degree in Educational Leadership at the University of Virginia.  She is currently an associate dean in the School of Education at Liberty University.  She has developed a love of sharing what God has laid on her heart over the years as a follower of Christ, a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and educator.


  1. Great words of wisdom. Thank you, Beth. My husband and I have been married 18 years, and the last five have been a really rough patch for us. We are a continued work in progress, but are trying to reconnect and follow God’s path. Trying to do my part, I’ve been on a search to discover and reinforce what God wants from me as a wife. I’m doing a study in my women’s Bible study group and I just finished reading a great new book that is wonderful for wives at any stage. I hope everyone enjoys it as I have. Biblical, affirming and challenging. It’s called “The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship,” by Erin, Greg and Gary Smalley. Fresh in my mind is one of my favorite quotes, “When we turn to God for help, he fills us with his love and enables us to see ourselves and our husbands through his eyes. Keep in mind that a wholehearted wife focuses first on her own heart!” I highly recommend it!

  2. 2 months ago
    Jen says

    Great advice! Sometimes it really is this simple. Thank you!

  3. 2 months ago
    Linda Rigsbee says

    Laurie, I love the idea of celebrating what is working! Take the focus off of everything that is not going the way you think it should and build off of what is going right. Great idea, I love it.

  4. I so appreciate this reminder! My husband and I have been together for 18 years (since we were 12 and 13), married for 8. Sometimes we take each other for granted. We’re 31 and 32. Most of our friends are newly married and in that sweet honeymoon stage. We’re far from that, and sometimes we go a full month without a date night. We’ve been through so many hard times in the last 18 years, but especially the last 8 since living together as man and wife. It’s so easy to forget how amazing and special we are to each other.

  5. Seven years was our decision point as well. We had two foster adopted daughters and one toddler who was having seizures after tumbling hard. We’d lost ourselves, our marriage-ness. At one point we just decided to celebrate what was working, whatever was working! It’s been almost 16 years now and God is still giving us things to celebrate together!

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