Use Your Words

ChooseYourWordsA word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in settings of silver. —Proverbs 25:11c

What a picturesque scene that paints! Just imagine for a moment that you enter a room and see a splendid, golden gleam and a sterling glimmer, only to find out that the golden apples and silver settings are yours. All yours; you get to take them home.

A couple of years ago I had the delight of having dinner in the home of a well-known personality. I felt like a scullery maid who had slipped in undetected to dine with the queen’s court. When we arrived, her dining room had been transformed into an elegant French café, with multiple tables draped in floor-length tablecloths, the chairs bedecked in fabric and tulle, and stupendous arrangements centered on each table. The multilayered china, sparkling goblets, and gleaming silver settings took my breath away. At each person’s seat was a six-inch gold cross with pearl insets that was our gift to take home. As you can imagine we, her guests, were thrilled.

What a memorable keepsake. It represented far more than a dinner present and has been a reminder not only of her generosity but also of her well-designed party full of warmth and words . . . words chosen to honor her guests, to make even scullery maids feel welcome.

We have the opportunity daily to consider the guests who enter our circle of influence—the gal at the cash register, the man at the post office, the kid in our flower beds, the neighbor in our business, the teen in our faces.

We can fashion words to fit each heart that will be easy for the recipient to receive, something that will remain with him or her and continue to build equanimity. We can care for others by using words that gleam with love, that sparkle with authenticity, and that shimmer long after the conversation is over. Most important, we can choose words that fit each person perfectly. I can’t think of a better way for us to share the cross of Christ than in a conversation full of divinely appointed words that are spoken at the precise moment they need to be said.

One of the original Women of Faith speakers, Patsy Clairmont is still dispensing her trademark wit and wisdom at From Survival to Revival events this fall. Come see her in a city near you.


  1. 2 months ago
    Laura says

    I have been thinking the last few days about my words and how I use them. Thank you for helping me with a positive image of what my words can represent to others.

  2. 2 months ago
    Pearl Toles says

    Wow! All of the replies are an encouragement. Of course Patsy Clairmont would be the teacher. I love her! The Lord has been speaking to my heart about speaking so soon to a request which could put me in a place of compromise or overwhelmed because I can’t meet the demand. I would promise or lie to keep a good “reputation”. So he ( God) reminded me of the scripture in James that states Be slow to speak, quick to hear, and slow to wrath. Memorizing that really helps when it comes to making choices. I thank God for His word in these cases.

  3. I met a lady sometime ago,at a point she started disclosing her life issues to me,how confused she was,how she’d already messed up her life and some strange dreams that she had.
    I’v never been approached in that manner ever before so i was restless,scared and i thought her case was too big for me.
    After a while i felt absolutely calm,this time i was starting to breath normal and it was like i felt a touch deep down in my heart and couldn’t withheld words that rushed in after,that i could see tears and smiles on her face.
    Till date that fire still burns in me even much more.

  4. 2 months ago
    Louisa Woo says

    Just wanted to share a recent ‘encounter’ that is related to this blog, ‘Use Your Words’…happened a couple days before I received it in my email.

    I found myself in a interesting conversation with a young [mid 30's] staff member of a mobile phone store, who was helping me with my phone repair issues. He started sharing about his challenges with his teenage and pre-teen daughters & ex-wife who has issues! Before I realized it…words came out of my mouth that started with…’…I’m a Christian, so…’!!

    To my surprise, he said…’I'm Christian, too…Catholic…’ He attends a Catholic church in Richmond…& was brought up ‘strict’. So, our conversation continued and I shared about my experience with my ‘teen’ daughter & son…praying with her in the morning before the day starts & at night. At the end of our conversation…he said he would try that!

    Then, when I saw him again to pick up my phone…he asked my ‘opinion & advice’ on something that he was struggling with that just had happened between him & his fiance’s friends! I affirmed he was doing the right thing, but also added that as hard as it is…he may want to apologize…not for the principle of what he said but for his ‘delivery’…the way he said or did something that may have offended another. I also added that he doesn’t need to be ‘buddies’ with them, but may want to think about leaving the ‘door open’ to these ppl who have wronged him…praying for them and loving them with God’s love. He agreed with all that I said! Then, to my surprise…he gave me a hug before I left! It’s as if I knew him for a long time!

    I also found out he played guitar & many other instruments & used to play for worship when he was younger. I asked if he would be avail if I was ever ‘stuck’ for musicians and he said ‘absolutely’ & that he had been to many friends ‘churches’…ie ‘non-Catholic’!

    God is amazing! *O:-) angel Who would’ve thunk? My only focus walking into that store 3 weeks ago, was that my phone was broken & I lost all my pics and I need this to be covered by warranty, even if I had missed the official deadline by a few days!

    BTW, they did cover my phone repair ‘under warranty’!!

  5. 2 months ago
    Suzan Miller says

    Use your words is exactly why I love Patsy Clairmont. Wisdom



  7. Thanks for the reminder of how important our words are. Often we speak negative without being aware of it. Our self-talk is often is laced with negativity that is worst then our words to others.

  8. 2 months ago
    Sandra J Wheeler says

    I have been speaking to two couples and one single woman . I am a Life Coach . My words encourage and guide them to God and His promises. It is so true that our words speak life or death. I pray that my words and actions speak life and bring Glory to God .

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