“In Kindergarten, your idea of a good friend was the one who let you have the red crayon, when all that was left was the ugly black one.” —Unknown
I used to see this quote as only being about self-sacrificing. I now appreciate that the red crayon is also about an acceptance of each other in our brokenness. Over time I have discovered that Godly friendships aren’t only the folks who are there for you through the good and bad times. If you think about it, this is actually a very easy thing for any of us to do, as we can do this for strangers. But righteous and true friendships are there for you in your brokenness, our black crayons.
And to be loved and cherished and forgiven and appreciated and to spend time with each other in spite of who we are and in our brokenness, this isn’t only true and “perfect” friendship, it’s our Christian walk in faith and love. This is actually the separation of the sheep and goats… to love and care for the inflicted, to reconcile with your fellow brother, to turn the other cheek, to forgive 7×70 times, the Fruits, on and on the examples are given. It’s not only who we are as “friends”, but it’s who we are in Christ.
James 5:16 even talks about the dependence on each other for prayer and healing. “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
We do not learn to practice this acceptance of Christ’s love and grace through writing or reading about it or by confessions on a grand scale to many. We learn righteousness, our walk in Christ, in personal relationship with one another. Let us all strive to offer this grace and love in righteousness towards one another in prayer.
While working at an alternative school, Dr. Beth Ackerman completed her Master’s degree in special education at Lynchburg College and a doctorate degree in Educational Leadership at the University of Virginia. She is currently an associate dean in the School of Education at Liberty University. She has developed a love of sharing what God has laid on her heart over the years as a follower of Christ, a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, and educator.