Adultery is unfortunately far too common today. No matter what you call it – adultery, an affair, infidelity, being cheated on – the pain is real. Healing is possible.

The betrayal is unspeakable. The heartache, unbearable. Adultery breaks trust, shatters intimacy, and destroys relationships. You’re left to pick up the pieces. How do you move forward? These Keys for Living provide practical steps for both the faithful and unfaithful spouse in the aftermath of an affair. Learn how to confront and respond to infi delity, how to seek intervention, and when to rebuild trust. You may be in a cloud of confusion now, and God’s Word offers answers to clear the way and reveals hope for a brighter future. 


In marriage, spouses don’t imagine they will ever say, “My husband cheated on me” or “My wife is having an affair.”

Whether you’re newly married or you’ve been married for years, adultery is one of the most difficult experiences someone can have. You might be wondering…

  • How could this have happened?
  • How can I forgive my spouse?
  • How can I ever trust my spouse again?
  • What will happen to my marriage?
  • What should I do?

Adultery is sin and it is also a symptom that all is not well in a marriage.

There are many reasons for adultery:

  • Our own sinful, selfish desires: “Each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed” (James 1:14).
  • Lack of maturity: Fifty percent of teenage marriages come apart in the first five years; however, age is not the only criterion. Immature selfishness at any age can lead to unfaithfulness. Another sign of immaturity is a lack of willingness to accept the responsibility of a family.
  • Demanding, critical, scolding, nagging husbands or wives.
  • Lack of sexual satisfaction on the part of either mate.
  • Transferring to one’s mate hostility felt toward a mother or father.
  • Meddlesome in-laws who smother a husband and wife with criticism or well-intended advice.
  • Lack of adequate sex education.

You should expect no easy solutions in dealing with the problem of adultery. However, God can work the miracle of the new birth for the non-Christian, and spiritual renewal for His own who have fallen away.  If you are successful in securing a commitment to Christ, you can be confident that this will bring a new perspective, making it easier to mend lives and to reach permanent solutions.

Consider some of the consequences of adultery:

  • Emotional: guilt, fear, anxiety, loss of self-esteem, shattered personalities, and depression
  • Physical: illegitimate births, venereal disease, abortions
  • Spiritual: loss in this life and in that which is to come

If you’re struggling with questions like these, know that there is hope. We want to equip you with helpful information so you can find hope and healing today.




Do you or do you know someone who has additional questions or requires help?

If so, please choose Women of Faith's other resources on this and other relevant topics (Quick Reference Guide, Keys for Living Books and e-Books).

Grace Filled Words:

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.”

Hebrews 13:4

Additional Scriptures:

Exodus 20:14

Ephesians 5:3

1 Corinthians 6:18

For the faithful partner: 

Romans 12:9–21 

For the unfaithful partner: 

Colossians 3:1–15

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