If you are a “people-pleaser” and have trouble saying No, then you need boundaries. Sometimes we need to say No to people so we can say Yes to God. Boundaries are needed in all areas of life, but they can be difficult to establish and even harder to maintain. These Keys for Living will teach you how to communicate rewards and repercussions and how to respond when boundaries are broken.
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“Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’”
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Is your life controlled by someone else? Is your time monopolized by someone else? Is your schedule dictated by someone else? If your response is, “That’s me!”… then you need boundaries.
We cannot be or do everything for anyone, much less everyone, so we must choose who we will be and what we will do regarding the people God brings into our lives. Jesus established boundaries for His relationships by prioritizing the Father… discipling the Twelve… and being intimate with the few. He also set boundaries on His actions…
“Jesus gave them this answer: ‘Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does… By myself I can do nothing; I judge only as I hear, and my judgment is just, for I seek not to please myself but him who sent me.’” (John 5:19, 30)
People with healthy boundaries understand the reality of our unique individuality and our need for mutually beneficial separateness. They accept that we are separate from one another… and yet we live with one another. We are individually responsible before God… and yet God holds us responsible for how we treat one another.
Clearly, although we are separate individuals, God made us to be in relationship with each other. The means by which we succeed at being both separate and together is established through healthy boundaries. Healthy people have healthy boundaries. With boundaries, we can juggle the two opposites of separateness and togetherness by creating and maintaining balance in our relationships. We do that by keeping God in His proper place and people in their proper place. God comes first and people come second…
“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
1 John 4:18
2 Timothy 1:7
Galatians 6:2, 5