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Conflict is unavoidable and it doesn’t have to be unbearable. God promises that we’ll clash, but He’s also shown us how to find resolution. Maybe you’ve always seen the Bible as a rule book. Look again.
In your mind, does the word conflict spell t-r-o-u-b-l-e? Disharmony in the home, wars in the workplace, disputes in the church—each situation should lead us to the One to whom we turn for direction, strength, and courage, but does it always? These Keys for Living will help you come to understand the differences between resolution and reconciliation, and come to believe that resolution rests in confronting the wrong . . . with the right heart. Learn to identify who creates conflict and who keeps it going, as well as the what, why, and how of boundaries in conflict resolution.
The reason we all experience conflict is rooted in a system of wrong beliefs. We assume that what we want is what we need and it’s up to us to defeat those who oppose us. After all, if we don’t protect our own interests, who will?
We may feel that our significance is being threatened so we attack. We may feel our security is threatened so we avoid. This fear-based thinking causes us to respond selfishly because we make the situation about us.
The right response, which comes from a right belief about conflict, should be, “conflict is a natural result of living with different types of people. My sense of security and significance is based on my own identity in Christ and in His perfect love and acceptance of me”
Remember, God tells us in 1 John 4:18, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
It is a collection of stories about people relating to each other and with God. The main theme, however, is about God and His relationship with you through Jesus Christ. Inherently, the relationships are full of conflict … from the Old Testament’s dysfunctional families to the Israelite’s battlefields to the crucifixion of Christ.
Everyone has a different style of dealing with conflict that evolves from instinct, personality and family dynamics. If you’re like most people, you either attack ferociously or run fiercely. Both strategies fail to rely on God’s grace. As you encounter discord, look to the Word to discover what God says about conflict. Ask Him for wisdom to accurately see other views, as well as the state of your own heart. Allow Him to bless you with humility and show you that you don’t have to defend your own interests − He already has! With His help through the Holy Spirit, you can find conflict resolution.
LEARN WHAT IS GOD'S HEART ON CONFLICT RESOLUTION
“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.”
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Book of Philemon verses 1–25