LONELINESS

HOW TO BE ALONE AND NEVER LONELY

KEYS FOR LIVING - LONELINESS

HOW TO BE ALONE AND NEVER LONELY

“First seek the counsel of the Lord.”

1 Kings 22:5

Loneliness is common to us all but knowledge alone cannot solve the problems loneliness causes. However, knowledge coupled with wisdom can be very helpful in limiting the negative effects of loneliness in your life. While loneliness feels like an emotional problem based on unchangeable circumstances, it’s actually a perception problem that can lead to emotional, spiritual, and even physical challenges.

God has not created you to be adrift in a sea of loneliness. He not only knows the intimate details of your life, He has your best interests foremost in His mind. Learn to lean on the Lord in your times of loneliness. He can and will comfort you. Allow Him to meet your deepest longings and to fill you with His love through prayer and searching for Him in Scripture. He is called, “the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort.” You may feel lonely, but you are never alone! Take comfort in God’s promise that, no matter the circumstances, you are never alone.

Interestingly, the word alone appears 118 times in Scripture and rarely is it synonymous with the word lonely. In fact, “the noun ‘loneliness’ did not acquire its present meaning until this century and did not appear in any major dictionary until after the Second World War. In other words, loneliness has only recently been thought of as a mental condition.”  It doesn’t take long in the classroom of life to learn that you can experience loneliness even when surrounded by a crowd. But aloneness is much different. Properly used, it can be a doorway to God. Jesus made a distinction between the two concepts when He said, 

“You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me.” 

John 16:32 

After gathering up torn ribbon and piles of ripped Christmas wrapping, the young mother carried trash out to a back alley. Their traditional Christmas morning had been cut short when her three children said, “Hurry up, Mom! We have to be at Dad’s by 10:00 this morning.” At the beep of his horn, all three raced out the door to repeat the gift-giving scene with their father, his new wife and her two children. They would be there all day and then leave on a trip for the holidays. Suddenly, both house and heart felt alone and desolate. She sat on the warm hearth of the fireplace allowing tears of emotion to run free. Then with an overwhelming sense of loneliness, she cried out to God.

“Hear my prayer, O Lord, listen to my cry for help; be not deaf to my weeping.” 

Psalm 39:12

What Is Loneliness?

  • The Old Testament Hebrew word for “lonely” is shamem, which means “to be desolate.”
  • The New Testament word eremos means “desert places.”
  • Loneliness is the state of sadness that comes from feeling alone, isolated or cut off from others.
  • A person can feel a lack of connection with others even when in their presence.
  • David cried out tothe Lord during his times of loneliness.

“Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted.” 

Psalm 25:16 

What Does It Mean to Be Alone?

  • The Old Testament Hebrew word translated “alone” is badad, which means “all by oneself.”
  • The New Testament Greek word monos denotes “single, alone, solitary.”
  • To be alone is the state of being solitary, separated from others.
  • Jesus often sought solitude. He separated Himself from others in order to commune alone with the Father.

“After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. When evening came, he was there alone.” 

Matthew 14:23 

What Is the Difference between Alone and Lonely?

  • Loneliness refers to the emotional… the state of feeling rejected and desolate. 
  • Aloneness refers to the physical… the state of being separated from others. 
  • Loneliness is usually a negative experience … accompanied by feelings of hopelessness. 
  • Aloneness is meant to be a positive experience … a time of creativity...

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Grace Filled Words:

“Hear my prayer, O Lord, listen to my cry for help; be not deaf to my weeping.”

Psalm 39:12

“I can do all this through him who gives me strength”

Philippians 4:13

“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Deuteronomy 31:8

Additional Scriptures: 

Psalm 63:1–8

Lamentations 3:22

Jeremiah 31:3

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