Cutting the Strings of Control


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God Alone is Our True "need-meeter"

Have you heard the saying, “normal is just a setting on your dryer”? Well it’s a catchy phrase, it’s cute, and in many ways, it’s true. Actually we all have our own understanding of “normal.”  You may have a friend or a coworker whose normal includes being the victim of consistent manipulation.  

Realize God may call you to help someone come face to face with the patterns of manipulation. When you’re given that opportunity, help your friend understand and recognize that God alone is our true need-meeter. He’s the only one who can meet our deepest inner needs for love, significance and security. 

Be ready to share God’s hope and help. It can make all the difference in the world!

Cutting the Strings of Control

Are your thoughts, emotions, and actions frequently controlled by a domineering spouse, boss, or friend? Do you ever feel like a puppet—as if someone is pulling your “strings” like a cleverly maneuvered marionette? No one should exercise control over your life like that. In these Keys for Living, discover why some people are prone to manipulation, and how to cut the strings that control you and be set free. If you are a manipulator, you’ll learn how to let go of control and lean on God who alone is sufficient to meet all your needs.

Do you see yourself as being “power-hungry”?  Power plays an intimate role in each of our lives. We all have a need to control our circumstances.  In childhood, we throw tantrums to get our way. By adulthood, we’ve mastered the art of manipulation. In fact, you could be a manipulator, or the one being manipulated, and not even realize it!

Manipulation isn’t wrong only because it’s dishonest and selfish. Manipulation happens when humans take control of their own circumstances in order to have their needs met. We’re not designed to meet our own needs. Only God can do that. He’s designed your heart to need Him. He’s made the world to thrive under His power. Trust the One who directs the birds’ song, commands the seas, and knows the stars by name. Ask Him to help you surrender your heart. With your life in His hands instead of your own, you’ll find lasting security.

Attempts to control our own world begin with the first breath of life. A baby’s natural cry, called the “cry for attention,” represents the first efforts at getting our needs met. Over the years, children can learn to use manipulative tears to get their way within their little circle of life. As we grow into adults, we develop highly refined personal skills for meeting our needs by taking matters into our own hands and manipulating people and events around us. These methods of control are so deeply ingrained that we lack personal insight into our own deceptive behavior. Most of us are more aware of the manipulation of others than of our own “string-pulling.” But maturity demands that we lay bare before God our need to control and that we begin the process of trusting the One who is in ultimate control.

“Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God.”

Psalm 20:7

What Is Manipulation?

  • Manipulation is the art of controlling people or circumstances by indirect, unfair or deceptive means, especially to one’s own advantage.
  • Those who are manipulated allow others to have excessive control over them—the control that God alone should have.

“You shall have no other gods before me.”

Exodus 20:3

What Is Persuasion?

  • Persuasion is the act of convincing people by urging, reasoning and appealing to one’s mind.
  • Those who are persuaded are won over by logical arguments of sound reasoning.

Question: “What is the difference between manipulation and persuasion?”

  • Someone who manipulates uses emotional means to get their way.
  • Someone who persuades uses logical means to achieve their goal.

“Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.”

1 Peter 3:15

What Are Some Biblical Illustrations?

With his great God-given strength, Samson could have delivered Israel from the oppression of the enemy—the Philistines. But he fell in love with a prostitute. At the request of the Philistine rulers who wanted to capture him, she began to cajole Samson into telling her the secret of his strength. After three failed attempts, she finally said to him, “How can you say, ‘I love you,’ when you won’t confide in me?” (Judges 16:15). What manipulation! Ultimately, she wore him down with her words, nagging and prodding him, until he told her the truth (Judges 16:16–17)

“Then the Philistines seized him, gouged out his eyes and took him down to Gaza. Binding him with bronze shackles, they set him to grinding in the prison.” 

Judges 16:21




Do you or do you know someone who has additional questions or requires help?

If so, please choose Women of Faith's other resources on this and other relevant topics (Quick Reference Guide, Keys for Living Books and e-Books).

Grace Filled Words:

“Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.” 

Romans 14:19

For the One Manipulated: 

“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God?

Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

Galatians 1:10 

For the Manipulator: 

“His divine power has given us everything we need for a

godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate

in the divine nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.”

2 Peter 1:3–4

Additional Scriptures:

Philippians 2:3-5

Hebrews 12:12

1 Thessalonians 2:3–8

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