Miscommunication, misbehavior, misinformation can unravel the tightest bonds and leave our emotions spinning out of control. Everyone experiences relationship breakdowns because imperfect people are connected to other imperfect people. The Bible makes it clear that our hearts should be a reflection of God’s heart, which ultimately is a heart of reconciliation.
In Romans 5:8, the Apostle Paul writes, “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
Notice how we – the offenders who have sinned – didn’t have to apologize first, we didn’t have to get cleaned up first, in order for God to make a move. Instead, Christ reached out to us in sacrificial love, longing for us to be reconciled to Him, longing for us to have a relationship with Him. In the end, when we learn to reconcile, we learn how to reflect the character of Christ.
Courtrooms are full of litigation between families, coworkers and friends. You probably haven’t escaped the pain of a broken relationship. This pain is universal, dating back to the Garden of Eden when Adam and Eve, through sin, broke fellowship with God. We’ve been in need of reconciliation ever since.
We’re all accountable for how we interact with others. If you refuse to take responsibility for your actions, you’re asking for trouble. While you’re never responsible for another person’s heart, you have a God-given duty to evaluate your own, deal with unresolved anger, and humbly ask forgiveness.
Don’t allow hurt feelings to alienate you from loved ones. Be aware, however, that reconciliation and restoration are not the same. Not every relationship, especially an abusive one, should be restored. In every instance, allow your heart to reflect God’s heart. Ask Him to give you wisdom and patience as you seek peace with others.
“Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.”
1 Peter 3:9
“Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everybody. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
2 Corinthians 5:19