Are you controlled by the fear of rejection? Do you feel like you can never please anyone, or that you have to earn love? If your sense of self-worth is based on the approval of others, you are on a runaway roller coaster with no ability to control when you’re up or when you’re down. Your feeling of value is at the mercy of what others think about you. You’re sense of identity is determined by how others respond to you.
Getting off that jerky roller coaster and conquering your fear of rejection, begins by allowing the Lord to control your life. He created you. He established your worth when He made you in his image. As you put your trust in Him, He will turn your fear into faith. Even though you may think that you’re not acceptable to others, or you don’t deserve to be loved, realize these thoughts do not reflect God’s truth about you! Listen to these words from 1 John 4:10, “This is love: not that we loved God, but that HE loved us.”
Has your heart been broken?
Your spirit crushed?
Nothing cuts to the core of your soul like rejection. Even death, while devastating, doesn’t compare to the pain of knowing you’ve been abandoned. Rejection chips away your self-image, chisels down your confidence, and leaves you feeling hopeless and unworthy as the horrible message repeats again and again: “You are unwelcome. You are unwanted.”
No one can guarantee a life without rejection. In fact, the Bible promises that you will come face-to-face with it. God also promises eternal and unconditional acceptance. In the midst of your pain, you can know there is One who will never reject you. He’s the One who’s already suffered the greatest rejection for you. Through Jesus, God has made a way for you to find complete acceptance in Him. He wants you to see yourself as He sees you − as the one He loves and will always welcome with open arms. In Him, you will find true healing and steadfast security.
Is your heart broken? Is your spirit crushed? Nothing is more healing than to know that the Lord loves you unconditionally.… He accepts you eternally. When your pain seems endless and your heart is tender to the touch, continue to put yourself into His compassionate hands. He will hold you with His heart of love until there is true healing… for,
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
Favoritism can be extremely painful. Children catch on quickly when there is a “favorite” in the family. The favored child often comes late in life—late like young Joseph in the Bible, the beloved son of Jacob. In his heart, the father not only favors Joseph over his ten brothers, but also flaunts his favoritism by giving Joseph the infamous “coat of many colors”—a coat Jacob himself has made! Meanwhile, the older brothers seethe with anger at the sight of this richly ornamented robe, which has now become a symbol of their father’s painful rejection. Little did Jacob know that his own favoritism would be the breeding ground for jealousy—the spark that would create a climate of hurt, hostility, and lasting hatred.
“Now Israel [Jacob] loved Joseph more than any of his other sons, because he had been born to him in his old age; and he made a richly ornamented robe for him. When his brothers saw that their father loved him more than any of them, they hated him and could not speak a kind word to him.”
Have you ever wondered, What was the very first rejection on earth? The first rejection is recorded in the first book of the Bible. God gives Adam and Eve everything they will ever need. He also gives one warning, “Don’t eat from that one tree.” And what do they do? They eat from that one tree! Their direct defiance means that they reject not just God’s Word, but also God Himself (Genesis 2:15–17; 3:6).
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
2 Timothy 1:7
“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”