There are many reasons why people fail to see themselves as having value or having worth to God, to themselves, or to others. Generally, negative perceptions develop in people as a result of being treated in ways that cause them to feel devalued by the significant people in their lives. Unless these perceptions are changed, we can feel increasingly devalued.
Negative perceptions that begin in childhood are difficult to replace with positive perceptions in adulthood. The best time to examine and evaluate our own worth is before self-perceptions become strong and solidified.
In many cases, the more we’re rejected, the more we rejected ourselves, and the more we reject those around us. Our greatest need is to have someone accept us and value us as an individual, special person. Someone who can heal our emotional wounds and cause us to see our God-given significance. This Someone is the true Healer of the brokenhearted. This Someone is the Lord Himself.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
Dorie never received the love and affection her heart so deeply craved. However, what a comfort for Dorie (and for all the male and female Dories in the world) to come to know this truth . . .
“The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
As a child did Dorie have any concept of “self-worth”? How could she?
As a continually rejected child, how could she personally feel any sense of significance . . . of value . . . of worth?
Even more basic than that, how do you determine the worth of something or someone?
How do you know your own worth?
“He chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.”
“Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up.”
“This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”
1 John 4:9–10