“In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” 

(John 16:33)

Freedom from a codependent friendship often involves a multifaceted approach that aligns personal growth with spiritual principles. Here's a more detailed look at each step:

1. **Recognize That You Are Overly Dependent on Another Person, Then Choose to Place Your Dependency on God (Mark 12:30):**

The first step is acknowledging that your reliance on another person for emotional support or validation is unhealthy. Shift your dependency to God, who provides ultimate stability and support. Mark 12:30 emphasizes loving God with all your heart, soul, mind, and strength, which suggests placing your primary trust and reliance on Him rather than on people.

2. **Examine Your Patterns of Codependent Thinking (Ephesians 4:25):**

Ephesians 4:25 calls for putting away falsehood and speaking the truth. Examine your thoughts and behaviors to understand how they contribute to codependency. Are there patterns of deceit or self-deception that need addressing? By being honest with yourself about these patterns, you can begin to make changes.

3. **Let Go of Your “Super-Savior” Mentality (Exodus 18:17–18):** 

Exodus 18:17–18 describes how Moses was advised to delegate responsibilities to others rather than trying to handle everything himself. This can be applied to letting go of the belief that you need to save or fix others. Recognize that you are not responsible for solving everyone’s problems and that trying to do so can lead to burnout and unhealthy dynamics.

4. **Extend Forgiveness to Those Who Have Caused You Pain (Ephesians 4:32):**

Forgiveness is crucial for releasing the hold that past hurts may have on you. Ephesians 4:32 encourages being kind and forgiving, just as God forgives us. Forgiving those who have hurt you helps to release bitterness and frees you from being tied to unhealthy relational patterns.

5. **Appropriate Your Identity in Christ (John 8:36):**

John 8:36 speaks to the freedom found in Christ. Embrace your identity as a beloved child of God, which is foundational for overcoming codependency. Understanding and internalizing your identity in Christ helps you build self-worth that is independent of others’ approval or validation.

6. **Set Healthy Boundaries (Proverbs 27:12):**

Proverbs 27:12 highlights the wisdom in being cautious and discerning. Setting healthy boundaries involves clearly defining what you are comfortable with and enforcing those limits. This helps protect your well-being and fosters healthier interactions.

7. **Exchange Your Emotional Focus for a Spiritual Focus (Psalm 119:35–37):**

Psalm 119:35–37 encourages seeking God’s guidance and focusing on His ways. Shift your focus from the emotional ups and downs of relationships to a more stable spiritual focus. This means prioritizing spiritual growth and trusting in God’s plan rather than being overly absorbed by relational dynamics.

Implementing these steps can lead to healthier, more balanced relationships and a deeper sense of fulfillment rooted in spiritual growth. It's a process that requires time, reflection, and often support from others, including counselors or spiritual mentors. 

Key Verse to Learn

“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.”

(Proverbs 17:17)

Key Passage to Read

Philippians 2:1–8