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DISCOVERING YOUR GOD GIVEN VALUE

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Is it an image distorted by criticism, rejection, disapproval, and pain? Or do you see yourself as God sees you? If you struggle with feeling worthless, these Keys for Living are able to help you uncover the underlying causes of low self-worth. Learn how to break free from false perceptions and hurtful infl uences with biblical truth. Find steps to self-acceptance and correct negative self-talk. Discover the life-changing identity you have in Christ and see yourself through God’s eyes—as His precious child of immeasurable worth.

Do you look to yourself or others in order to grasp your value? If you look anywhere other than to God—the God who created you with a purpose and a plan—your view of your own value is in grave danger of being distorted. Before you were ever born, God established your real worth by creating you! Even you were worth God’s creating you and more so: God chose you! 

Where Do You Find Your Worth?

There are many reasons why people fail to see themselves as having value or having worth to God, to themselves, or to others. Generally, negative perceptions develop in people as a result of being treated in ways that cause them to feel devalued by the significant people in their lives. Unless these perceptions are changed, we can feel increasingly devalued. 

Negative perceptions that begin in childhood are difficult to replace with positive perceptions in adulthood. The best time to examine and evaluate our own worth is before self-perceptions become strong and solidified.

In many cases, the more we’re rejected, the more we rejected ourselves, and the more we reject those around us. Our greatest need is to have someone accept us and value us as an individual, special person. Someone who can heal our emotional wounds and cause us to see our God-given significance. This Someone is the true Healer of the brokenhearted. This Someone is the Lord Himself.

Determining Self-Worth

  • Worth signifies the value, merit, or significance of a person or thing.
  • Self-worth is the belief that your life has value and significance.
  • Worth is a translation of the Greek word axios, which means “of weight and worth.” In biblical times, gold and other precious metals were placed on a balancing scale where their worth was determined by their weight, leading to the expression …

“… worth their weight in gold.…”

(Lamentations 4:2)

Question: “How can someone’s worth be determined?”

Answer: At an auction, the worth of an item is determined clearly and simply by one thing … the highest price paid. Each item goes to the highest bidder. You were bought from the auction block of sin over 2,000 years ago when the heavenly Father paid the highest price possible—the life of His Son, Jesus Christ. By that one act, your worth was forever established by God.

Jesus Christ paid the ultimate price for you—willingly dying on the cross—paying the penalty for your sins. He loves you that much!

Your true worth is not based on anything you have done or will do, but on what Jesus has already done. Without a doubt, He established your worth.… You were worth His life.… You were worth dying for.

“This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins”

(1 John 4:9–10).

Discover Your God-Given Worth

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”

(Psalm 147:3)

Do you look to yourself or others in order to grasp your value? If you look anywhere other than to God—the God who created you with a purpose and a plan—your view of your own value is in grave danger of being distorted. Before you were ever born, God established your real worth by creating you! Even you were worth God’s creating you and more so: God chose you! What happens when you long for your mother’s love, but your sister is the only one loved?

What happens when you long for a gift, but your sister is the only one given a gift? What happens when you long to be held on your mother’s lap, but your sister is the only one held on your mother’s lap? Ask Dorie Van Stone. 

Dorie would personally tell you that repeated  rejection is the breeding ground for low self-worth.  Because she was not wanted by her mother, in the eyes of her mother, she was always ugly.

Dorie never received the love and affection her heart so deeply craved. However, what a comfort for Dorie (and for all the male and female Dories in the world) to come to know this truth...

  • As a child did Dorie have any concept of “self-worth”?
  •  How could she?
  • As a continually rejected child, how could she personally feel any sense of significance . . . of value . . . of worth?
  • Even more basic than that, how do you determine the worth of something or someone?
  • How do you know your own worth?

“The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

1 Samuel 16:7

  • Self-worth is the belief that your life has value and significance.
  • To have self-esteem is to respect or have high regard for yourself.
  • An inferiority complex is a painful, debilitating feeling of being less valuable than others.

“He chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight.”

(Ephesians 1:4)

Checklist for Low Self-Worth

I am self-critical and have feelings of self-loathing.

I am fearful of failure and avoid risk taking.

I am overly impacted by the opinions of others and strive to meet their standards.

I am unhappy with my personal appearance and personal achievements.

I am negligent of my appearance.

I am unable to set boundaries.

I am ashamed of my background, and I often struggle with depression.

I am defensive when confronted.

I am argumentative and resistant to authority.

I am undeserving of and unable to accept compliments.

I am afraid to get close to people and establish intimacy.

I am a peace-at-all-costs people pleaser.I am reluctant to express my true feelings.

I am hesitant to accept responsibility for my wrongs.

I am often afraid to defend myself.

 

Self-Worth Substitutes

I am impressed with status symbols and often live beyond my  income.

I am overly competitive and view losing as a reflection of my value and worth.

I am envious of important people and seek approval.

I am constantly striving for recognition.

I am perfectionistic in an attempt to earn approval.

I am addicted to substances, sex, food, etc.

I am angry and intimidating at times in a zeal to accomplish my goals.

I am financially extravagant in an attempt to impress others.

I am obsessed with having certain possessions.

I am insistent on getting my way.

If you struggle with any of these substitutes, ask yourself this question. “What good is it for someone to gain  the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” (Mark 8:36)

 

Spiritual Sabotages

I have difficulty feeling acceptable to God.

I have difficulty admitting my guilt to God.

I have difficulty forgiving God.

I have difficulty trusting God.

I have difficulty accepting the forgiveness of God.

I have difficulty living in the grace of God.

I have difficulty feeling loved by God.

I have difficulty feeling wanted by God.

I have difficulty acknowledging that God has designed a special plan for me.

I have difficulty believing that the promises of God are for me.

Comparing Yourself to Others

People often compare themselves to others in appearance, abilities, affluence, and accomplishments. Read the statements below to see whether they have become part of your self-talk.

Appearance 

  • Physical features: “I am not as attractive as _________.” 
  • Clothes: “I cannot dress as nicely as _________.” 
  • Mannerisms: “I am not as graceful or suave as _________.” 

Abilities 

  • Physical abilities: “I am not as athletic as _________.” 
  • Mental abilities: “I am not as smart as _________.” 
  • Social abilities: “I am not as popular as _________.” 

Affluence 

  • Financial/job status: “I am not as financially secure as _________.” 
  • Family status: “I don’t have a home as nice as _________.” 
  • Social status: “I am not as influential as _________.” 

Accomplishments 

  • Education: “I don’t have as many degrees as _________.” 
  • Talent: “I am not as gifted as _________.” 
  • Recognition: “I am not as accomplished as _________.” 

 

7 Steps to Self-Acceptance 

1. I accept God’s Word that I was created in His image. (Genesis 1:27) 

2. I accept myself as acceptable to Christ. (Romans 15:7)

3. I accept what I cannot change about myself. (Romans 9:20–21) 

4. I accept the fact that I will make mistakes. (Philippians 3:12–14) 

5. I accept criticism and the responsibility for failure. (Psalm 32:5)

6. I accept the fact that I will not be liked or loved by everyone. (John 15:18, 20) 

7. I accept the unchangeable circumstances in my life. (Philippians 4:11) 

“Though you have made me see troubles, many and bitter, you will restore my life again; from the depths of the earth you will again bring me up.” 

(Psalm 71:20) 

 

Key Verse to Learn 

“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?”

 (Matthew 6:26) 

 

Key Passage to Read 

Psalm 139

How to Answer 7 Self-Defeating Statements

1. If you say: “I just can’t do anything right.” 

The Lord says: “I’ll give you My strength to do what is right.” 

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13 NKJV). 

2. If you say: “I feel that I’m too weak.” 

The Lord says: “My power is perfect when you are weak.” 

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” 

(2 Corinthians 12:9). 

3. If you say: “I feel that I’m not able to measure up.” 

The Lord says: “Rely on Me. I am able.” 

“God is able to bless you abundantly, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work” 

(2 Corinthians 9:8).  

4. If you say: “I don’t feel that anyone loves me."

The Lord says: “I love you.” 

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness” 

(Jeremiah 31:3).

5. If you say: “I can’t forgive myself.” 

The Lord says: “I can forgive you.” 

“I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more” 

(Isaiah 43:25). 

6. If you say: “I wish I’d never been born.” 

The Lord says: “Since before you were born, I’ve had plans for you.” 

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart”

 (Jeremiah 1:5).

7. If you say: “I feel my future is hopeless.” 

The Lord says: “I know the future I have for you.” 

“‘I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11).

“How can someone’s worth be determined?” 

At an auction, the worth of an item is determined clearly and simply by one thing ... the highest price paid. Each item goes to the highest bidder. You were bought from the auction block of sin over 2,000 years ago when the heavenly Father paid the highest price possible—the life of His Son, Jesus Christ. By that one act, your worth was forever established by God. 

Jesus Christ paid the ultimate price for you—willingly dying on the cross—paying the penalty for your sins. He loves you that much! 

Your true worth is not based on anything you have done or will do, but on what Jesus has already done. Without a doubt, He established your worth. ... You were worth His life. ... You were worth dying for.

“This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.” 

(1 John 4:9–10) 

 

“How could a loving God allow abuse?” 

God did not create people to be puppets, but rather free agents, able to make their own choices. In granting people this freedom, He knew that people would choose to sin against Him and against one another. Make no mistake: God is not the abuser. He hates the evil of abuse and will one day repay those who do evil... 

“I will punish the world for its evil, the wicked for their sins. I will put an end to the arrogance of the haughty and will humble the pride of the ruthless.” 

(Isaiah 13:11)

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