Turning Victims into Victors
It starts off with a snide comment or derogatory remark.
From there it becomes belittling, demeaning, and disparaging. Sometimes it’s not even what is said, but what is unsaid. Given time, the relationship becomes one where the victim is constantly made to feel inferior by the words and actions of the perpetrator.
The victim may feel like there's nothing that can be done since they “allowed” the relationship to become this way over time. Or perhaps they are convinced the perpetrator is right: that they indeed are inferior.
Whatever the case, they feel trapped and powerless – resigned to the idea that it will always be this way.
Let me tell you two things clearly and distinctly:
- It’s not okay to be verbally or emotionally abused.
- You can change the course of an abusive relationship.
It’s not easy, but a course correction is possible.
Words have the power to build up and to break down! Let’s be mindful of this fact today and speak words of life to those we come in contact with.