MARRIAGE: HOLY OR HAPPY?

What if the greatest joy was in discovering that marriage was designed to make us holy, not happy?

Have you ever reached a crisis point in your marriage; hopelessly wondering if restoration was even possible or worth it?  Perhaps you’ve asked yourself – what happened?

Two people came together in the name of love, making a covenant before God and family, only to now be spending more time in conflict than close connection. Unfortunately, this is more of a commonality in marriages today than ever. So where can you go when you feel like you’re at odds with your spouse?

When you believe that hope has been lost? Back to foundation of why God brought you together, that’s where! I believe that God brings people together with the intention for both to be stretched and to grow into the individuals that He desires them to become. I also believe that he uses the conflict areas in our marriage as a mirror to show us ‘growth opportunities’.

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Overcoming the Past - Be an Overcomer

Overcoming the Past - Be an Overcomer

True love for God means obeying his commands, and his commands don’t weigh us down as heavy burdens. You see, every child of God overcomes the world, for our faith is the victorious power that triumphs over the world.

1 John 5:3-4

The rear view mirror of our life holds many things. Looking into the rear view mirror of life can be motivating and awakening if there have been intentional steps taken on our journey! Sometimes the rear view mirror can be anxiety producing and cause us to put up protective barriers to keep ourselves mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually safe. These barriers seem to keep us safe from the traumatic experiences that have been neatly tucked away with no intention of uncovering. This can be a trap that keeps us from growth and the abundance that God wants for us.

Maybe you have experienced an event in your life that created scars that sometimes seem to be impossible to overcome. They also can leave us...

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A Covenant To Have and to Hold

A Covenant To Have and to Hold

Time, effort, and meticulous planning go into the wedding and what about the marriage? Maybe you’re cynical about marriage because of the failed marriages you see around you. Maybe your own marriage has deflated and your hope of ever having a fulfilling marriage relationship has disappeared.

The Keys for Living will help you come to appreciate marriage as the purposeful covenant relationship God intends for it to be. Learn how to find your identity in Christ—not in your mate, discuss tangible ways to improve your marriage, and discover how male and female differences bring balance to the marriage relationship.

What Is God’s Pattern for Marriage?

“A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.”  Genesis 2:24-25

What Are God’s Purposes for Marriage?

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The Vows We Make Before The Marriage Vows

A Vow Is A promise or oath.  These vows may seem very similar to the vows that you exchanged on your wedding day. “I, take thee, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.”

There is a lot of rich content in the typical Christian Marriage Vows including implied sacrifices that may stretch the average human to the brink of questioning what they have gotten themselves into. It can seem that we commit to these vows without really acknowledging how they actually play out during the course of marriage. This is very reminiscent of the vows that we made during our growing up years.

To learn more on building a thriving marriage or simply considering marriage, here are several resources available:

CONSIDERING MARRIAGE

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DO NOT BE ANXIOUS!!!!

DO NOT BE ANXIOUS!!!!

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.  Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT).
 
Statistics show that about 85% of the things that spend time worrying about actually never take place! So much of our energy is spent worrying about things that by the end of the day or the end of the week will never happen.
 
Anxiety is nothing more than fear-based and is definitely not from God. In fact, scripture tells us that there is a spirit that impacts us and causes us to worry. That spirit is the “spirit of fear”.
 
For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline. - 2 Timothy 1:7 (NLT).  
 
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Building Marriages To Last

 

Building Marriages To Last

Journey Toward Building a Marriage that Lasts! Building Marriages To Last is an interactive teaching that is designed to share solid marriage principles. Bryan and Stephanie Vignery teach from over 15 years of experience and are a dynamic, biblically-based, spirit-filled couple. We believe that you will find the Building Marriage to Last curriculum will empower and equip you and your spouse to foster a deeper connection in Christ. We invite you to jump in and enjoy the journey!

The Intentional Marriage is a generational voice that reflects the Biblical truth about marriage in the midst of a culture of lies. Building Marriages to Last online course is one of the ways The Intentional Marriage is spreading the word and impacting marriages!

 

Bryan & Stephanie Vignery
Founders of The Intentional Marriage

Bryan is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Stephanie is a NASM Certified Lifestyle Accountability Coach.
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LOVE SACRIFICIALLY

LOVE SACRIFICIALLY

Love comes in many forms. In today's culture we have a tendency to throw the 'love' word around for just about anything. Stephanie and I love Mexican food. We love ice cream. We love date night...and many other things that we do together. Love can have different meanings depending on what your situation is or the people that you are around.

As many of you know there is another kind of love that completely transcends any of the superficial 'loves' that we claim on a daily basis. This kind of love is Agape Love.

God is very clear and He calls us to this different kind of love. We are supposed to love our spouse everyday with this sacrificial love.

Ephesians 5:1-2 states 1Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are his dear children. Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God. I don't know about you but that seems to be a...

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